It was a morning just like every other morning, but for some reason, I had had enough.
I went downstairs to greet Strong as he pounded away on his door, letting me know he was ready to be up for the day. As I opened the door, he ran into the living room and said, “Watch TV?”
And it hit me. We. Are. DONE.
Why this particular morning? you might ask. And I would respond with, I don’t know.
I don’t know what happened inside my heart that day, but something cried out deep down and said, this isn’t normal. Maybe it was the rush and buzz and noise of the television constantly playing in our living room. Or maybe it was the weight of waking up unsatisfied and comparing my life to “hers.” Could it have been the exhaustion and fatigue of simply living for naptime every day, and when naptime finally came, still feeling unsettled and unfulfilled? Or maybe it was night after night of spending precious quality time binge-watching Netflix with my other half.
Despite what all of society is doing, this picture isn’t normal. I wasn’t mad that Strong had asked to watch TV, because, quite frankly, I had taught him to do that; turning on the television was just too easy, because it allowed me to do all the musts and shoulds that plagued me day after day. Scrolling through Facebook was mindless and listening to podcasts meant turning my brain off in an attempt to crowd out the anxious thoughts. Each night, I held tightly to my favorite excuse, exhaustion, as I chose to forego conversation for insignificant entertainment.
That morning, I was struck with the reality that if this was what normal looked like, I didn’t want any part of it.
I. was. done.
Our family had been allowing life to happen to us rather than intentionally choosing our direction. Our priorities had become muddled as our screen usage went up and our face-to-face interactions went down.
Enough was enough.
We live in a culture that is full of excess. Bigger is better. If you want it, go buy it. If a little is good, more is really good. And without realizing it, we’ve filled our lives with distractions that have slowly leeched the life that comes with enjoying the simple things and doing less.
For me, 2018 has been a year of simplifying. Getting rid of what isn’t needed. Keeping the good, throwing out the old. And while that definitely applies to “stuff,” it also works for our minds.
I don’t know about you, but my family needs a mind shift, a complete reset. A season of re-evaluating priorities, choosing the things that bring life and connection, and letting go of the things that don’t. In order to do that, we’ve decided we’re leaving media behind for the summer. No more TV. No more Facebook. No more podcasts playing endlessly from one to the next. No more phones. No more distractions.
I know what you’re thinking. That seems extreme. But sometimes change has to be extreme to get the results you want.
I’m kicking off July with a Media Detox and I’d love for you to join me!! Our family has already spent the entire month of June media-less and it has been freeing in so many ways. I’ve put together a 5 day email series that will start July 1st and guide you on this month long journey. If you’re tired of being stuck in a media rut and want to freshen up that mind of yours, this is for YOU!! (You can sign up below this post)
It’s time to start taking ownership of our families and how we’re feeding our minds. Connection and communication are important in building lifelong relationships. Don’t let media become a hindrance. Join me in saying, “Enough is ENOUGH.”
PS If you’re interested in simplifying your “stuff,” check out my post on decluttering here.